As I grew in my self-worth, self-confidence and self-love, my boys began to blossom. For the first time in years, they made progress. I started feeling joy again and they did too! There are no words for the kind of shifts we began to experience. Miraculous maybe. My middle son stopped being violent. No more hospital visits. And because I was confident in myself, I could draw good boundaries, so my Ex could no longer control me through the kids or schools.
Beyond that, I was BEing the change I wanted in my own life! I wanted love and because I was loving myself, love was now what I was experiencing from my kids and others around me. The same with respect and safety. Ahhhh life was truly turning around.
The healthier I became, the more open I was to learn new things about my kiddos, from my kiddos. I began to partner with them. Their education and wellbeing took a huge turn for the better. We went from a family dependent on services, to an independent family…confident that we could team work our way through any storm.
My relationships with every service provider, school, and family member shifted as well. I became a kinder advocate, but not less passionate. The love for my kids could shine through more, the frustration and anger, less. I was able to inspire my boys to embark on their own journey’s to becoming their own advocates. Watching them find their voices and step into their choices. It was a gorgeous shift!
That was just over a year ago, and that is just part of my story. My journey to my bliss and my families. Yours may look completely different and that is absolutely ok! There is so much more I want to share with you! What I will tell you is that I almost gave up. Life seemed impossible. It felt like my soul wasn’t strong enough and each mountain I had to climb was making me more and more weary. I kept looking outside of myself for the answers. The solution. The next thing that was going to save me. What I didn’t realize, was that I had the power within me all along. I just had to unleashed it.
Today life seems really bright. It’s not perfect, but perfection is a myth. It feels so incredible to have this life full of possibility. These relationships with my boys and my family. The one I have with myself. My mission now is to light the way for others so they can find that spark within themselves. To help them fan the flames until their fire burns with an intensity they’ve never felt before. So they know their full potential and feel supported on their journey. I have such a passion to see each child thriving in their life!!
If children are a big part of your life and you are feeling challenged by their needs and/or behaviors, please know there is hope and support. You are not alone.
All the love,